Lena Dunham Opens Up About Split

Breaking up is not fun, no matter how thoughtful and empathetic your approach. Lena Dunham shared her musings on her split from Bleachers frontman Jack Antonoff in an essay in Vogue.

The 31-year-old Girls creator began with the stark observation that “‘I’m going to die alone.’ It’s a refrain often uttered by women, with a kind of tragicomic self-awareness, after a bad date or the breakup of a brief romance or the adoption of a calico cat.”

• Yikes! Dunham recalled the exact moment she and Antonoff decided to officially pull the trigger.
• “We sat in our shared kitchen of nearly four years and quietly faced each other, acknowledging what nobody wanted to say,” she wrote. “That obsessive connection had turned to blind devotion, and the blinders were coming off to reveal that we had evolved separately (the least shocking reason of all and perhaps the most common).”
• She said the realization “nearly killed” her. Dunham also explained that Antonoff kept their apartment, while she moved in with her parents who lived about 10 minutes away.
• Dunham said she was using the time to get back in touch with her comfort in solitude.
• “Nobody likes to be lonely,” she wrote. “It’s been the subject of more art than can be consumed in a lifetime, the human aversion to loneliness and also the way we attune ourselves to it, become entrenched in a routine that isolates us. Too much has been said about the way technology allows us to experience the illusion of connection and retreat further into hermetic patterns, but it bears repeating that texts, emails, Facebook pokes and Twitter faves do not a social life make. People are, it would seem, lonelier than ever and also less used to being alone.”
• Antonoff, meanwhile, has reportedly moved on. He began dating model Carlotta Kohl recently, according to Us Weekly.