December 1, 1966 — December 17, 2024

This is so difficult to write. How do you sum up the life of the love of your life in a few paragraphs.

Our Ray, born December 1, 1966, in Vancouver, passed away on our son’s 28th birthday, December 17, 2024, at home.

Ray was the best dad to our son Cody, and the most loved and most loving husband to me (Lisa). I don’t need to tell you all how awesome he was, because those of you who knew him, already know that. He was quiet, kind, and funny. He didn’t let much get to him and took things in stride. It was sometimes annoying how calm he was. He would always tell me “it’s fine Lisa”, even if I didn’t feel like everything was fine.

Ray and I met when I was 16, he was 20, in 1987. It was love at first sight and we’ve been together ever since. We completed our family when our wonderful son, Cody, joined us on December 17, 1996. We built a great life with so many fabulous memories and the best adventures. Before MS made it difficult for him to get around he was so active. He loved golf and anything to do with the outdoors.

Ray lived with multiple sclerosis for over 20 years. Stupid MS made him take LTD in October, 2018. It was hard on Ray to not work anymore but he adjusted and was happy being Cody’s taxi, driving him to his many sports, games, practices, and his daily trip to Starbucks. Even with MS, we continued to travel as much as we could. We loved cruising and had so much fun with family on all our trips.

We sure didn’t think he would be leaving us. And I am not sure how we will carry on without him, but we have the best family and friends to support us. He will be so greatly missed by me, our son, Cody, his mom Donna and her husband Grant, my mom, Brenda, brother Gord (Terry), sister Tanya (Kane), my sister Leah (Mike) and our nieces and nephews, Gage, Jacob, Austin, MacKenzie, Nate and Isobel, many aunties, uncles, cousins and friends.

Our nephew Jacob told me that he “always aspired to be like Uncle Ray, always joyful, always with a smile no matter what situation, and I will try my best to complete that goal”. And that was Ray. The best role model and inspiration to me and others.

He’s not been feeling well the last little while and when I asked him what he needed he would say, “a new body please”. I hope he has that new body now. I hope he has no pain. I know he misses us as much as we miss him. I just saw this quote “When we lose someone we love, we must learn not to live without them, but to live with the love they left behind”. I will do my best to do that.

At this time we are not planning a service of any kind but if we do it will be in the spring or summer and we will let y’all know.

Thank you to everyone who has reached out with love and hugs. The love and support Cody and I have received has been so needed and appreciated.

Condolences may be sent to the family from www.kamloopsfuneralhome.com

• Date : 2024-12-17
• Location : Kamloops