NEUSTAETER: Bikinis, bistros and the business of exploiting women
One of the great challenges of raising a daughter is teaching her how to clothe her body. It’s important to respect her individuality and empower her own sense of style without allowing current fashion and the pressures of an over sexualized culture to dictate her choices.
Debates over how to properly do this in our schools and homes continue all the time as we try to teach young women that their worth is more than skin deep and that their bodies are the visible, physical representations of their personal standards. Unfortunately the wider world, which does not care one iota about their future, individuality or decency, is constantly giving girls mixed messages about what’s acceptable, expected and attractive — not to mention all the conflicting ideas about what kind of attention she should be seeking.
Throughout my time mentoring youth, and now as I’m guiding my own daughter through boundaries and comfort levels when it comes to clothing, I have regularly told young women looking for guidance that the key to successful dressing is to always aim for “appropriate” for the environment they will be in. I often use this example: I’m all for bikinis and I love a good parka, but I wouldn’t wear a parka to the beach in summer and I wouldn’t wear a bikini out to a restaurant in the city.