Oprah Opens Up
On Thanksgiving Day, Oprah Winfrey‘s 83-year-old mother Vernita Lee died at her home in Milwaukee. Winfrey is speaking out for the first time to People about the time she spent with her mother before her death, and about the greater significance of her passing.
She says she was able to spend time by her mother’s side, but like all of us, struggled for what to say and think. She tells People: “In hospice care they have a little book about the little conversations. I thought, ‘Isn’t this strange? I am Oprah Winfrey, and I’m reading a hospice care book on what to say at the end.’”
Characteristically, she says she looked at her mother’s death as “a teaching, learning, experience. I knew my mother was dying. I got a call from my sister (Patricia, who Lee gave up for adoption in 1963) that she thought it was the end. I was planning to go to launch Michelle Obama‘s book, Becoming, in Chicago. I hopped on a plane and I went early-I surprised my mother.”
Winfrey continues: “I sat with my mother. I said, ‘I don’t know if you’re going to make it. Do you think you’re going to make it?’ She said, ‘I don’t think I am.’ I had a conversation with her about what that felt like, what it felt like to be near the end. I started telling all the people who cared about her that, ‘She knows it’s the end, so, if you want to say goodbye, you should come and say goodbye.’”